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Understanding Sexual Abuse

Women are saying they’re not surprised at the scope of the sexual abuse allegations being lobbied against numerous high profile celebrities. Women also say it’s about time as most men in positions of power act no different. These are troubling times but in order to understand the prevalence of sexual abuse in society we first need to Understand Life and its key mechanism; Desire.

Sexual abuse is much more than men acting badly. It’s also not a transgression that is perpetrated exclusively by men. Sexual abuse has to do with nature and the human ability and/or willingness to manage it. In other words, people who abuse others sexually are acting on their natural sexual inclinations; they just don’t care about the ethics of their actions.

Nature is Life and Life functions by mechanisms. The key Life mechanism in humans is Desire. Desire has too parts, the craving and the reward. Our cravings are our Triggers and our rewards are our Hormones that facilitate sensations of pleasure. Two common reward hormones are Dopamine and Serotonin. Important to know is that too much of anything will make you an addict, naturally and artificially.

A trigger ingredient in a substance is what causes artificial addiction. For example, the natural Trigger in Marijuana it THC. Once THC enters the Brain it triggers brain neurotransmitters to release Dopamine creating a sense of pleasure and euphoria. Addiction occurs when the neurotransmitters get damaged from too much triggering. They get stuck into calling for more THC until they are fulfilled over and over.

Natural addiction occurs when we become obsessed with a natural instinct such beauty or sex. In Sex addiction the trigger is the physical sensation of (touch), which released the pleasure hormone. Therefore we (desire) to experience the feeling over and over in an obsessive manner. So, if sex is natural how does it result in aggressive and abusive behavior? The problem is the result of a deficiency of Conscience.

Conscience is a mind force that is developed by consciously practicing three things in daily life; fairness, equity, and accountability. As one’s conscience develops so does one’s self discipline, willpower, ethics, and moral fortitude. The result is that when the natural inclinations of nature arise within us, we will have several tools to manage it.

People who engage in sexual abuse have weak consciences. They do not have enough self-discipline to control their sexual desires but they somehow manage by the fear of the consequences of the laws of society. However, in positions of power they become narcissistic and will take advantage of the vulnerabilities of their victims. They know that their victims will either fear the consequence of speaking out or will reluctantly trade sexual favor for personal gain.

Are you in a sexually abusive situation or have you been sexually abused in the past? Now that you understand the essence of sexual abuse it’s time to speak out. Summon up your courage and join the throngs of people who are saying “no” to sexual abuse. Speaking out will serve to raise the level of consciousness pertaining to all other unethical aspects of life on a whole.